What You Can Expect

You can expect certain things from entering into a counselling relationship. You can expect that our work together will be confidential. You can expect that I will treat you with respect and integrity. You can expect to feel heard.

During our work together you will be invited to try ‘learning experiments’, which might include paying attention to and staying with your here-and-now experiences, trying relaxation techniques, writing activities, or other opportunities to learn to access your own healing potential. All of these will be discussed with you beforehand, and you will always have the choice whether to try something out or not.

A counselling session may look different than what you expect from everyday interactions. Part of my role is to help you to slow down your experiences to make time to fully integrate what is happening. In this way I am not only listening carefully and being present to you, but helping you to be present to yourself.

While counselling is not a magic solution, it can be very effective in helping people with problems in living. Getting the most out of your counselling will require honesty and effort on your part as well as mine. From time to time I may suggest readings or other activities for you to complete in-between sessions. Sometimes people are surprised to learn that it is okay to laugh during the therapy process. Laughter, in the context of an attuned and respectful relationship, can offer release and connection.

Entering into counselling is an important decision, and requires your commitment and willingness to take responsibility for your life. At times the process of healing and growth can be uncomfortable or painful. For this reason it is important for you to honor your own limits and your own pace of learning. It is also necessary that you feel safe and comfortable with the counsellor that you choose. You have the right to shop around until you find someone whose style fits well with yours. For tips on choosing a counsellor, please click here.

For more information about your rights in the counselling relationship go to The B.C. Association of Clinical Counsellors.