You can expect certain things from entering into a counselling relationship with me. You can expect that our work together will be confidential. You can expect that I will treat you with respect and integrity, and be deeply interested in understanding you and your world.
A counselling session may look different than what you expect from everyday interactions. Part of my role is to help you to slow down your experiences to make time to fully integrate what is happening. In this way I am not only listening carefully and being present to you, but helping you to be present to yourself.
I work in collaboration with my clients, meaning that I am not an expert on you. You are the expert on you. I like to be very clear about what you are looking for and how we will work together. This helps to keep the process focused and effective.
While counselling is not a magic solution, it can be very effective in helping people with problems in living. Getting the most out of your therapy will require honesty and effort on your part as well as mine. Sometimes people are surprised to learn that it is okay to laugh during the therapy process. Laughter, in the context of an attuned and respectful relationship, can offer release and connection.
Entering into therapy is an important decision, and requires your commitment and willingness to take responsibility for your life. At times the process of healing and growth can be uncomfortable or painful. For this reason it is important for you to honor your own limits and your own pace of learning. It is also necessary that you feel safe and comfortable with the counsellor that you choose. You have the right to shop around until you find someone whose style fits well with yours. For tips on choosing a counsellor, please click here.
For more information about your rights in the counselling relationship go to The B.C. Association of Clinical Counsellors.